Well, baby was a boy. I’m pissed off, but you know, in the middle of delivering an 8 lb baby so... priorities. To be notified as soon as catpants74 posts an update click ^here. I could never go no contact because she is virtually the only family either of us have, and she is very close to my daughter and one of my sons. When we shared the name though, my mother in law started screaming “NO no no no no!” And begging us to change it. Until your DW brought your JYMIL into your life, the woman who would have abandoned a sick 2yo at the hospital was all you had. But still, I wish now I’d proceeded with caution. I just thought that maybe my Mother had softened since I had kids. This afternoon, his mom told me that MY PARENTS looked sad that baby was a boy, and that everyone was disappointed (except her) that baby was a boy. A DIL having a baby also challenges a MIL’s control and authority: because now YOU will be The Mother and have authority over what can and can’t be done with your child. If your only advice is to jump straight to NC or divorce, your comment may be subject to removal at moderator discretion. She’s extremely narcissistic in a “feel bad for me, I’m so excluded from everything” way (not in regards to my relationship with MIL particularly, she acts like this in her whole life.) Well, now. But even I know that the expected behavior at a gender reveal party or baby shower is to be excited and congratulatory - nothing more and nothing less.

They get in their head that there just needs to be this one major event (I call it the hallmark movie moment) that will suddenly open the jn's eyes, they'll apologize, and everything will be right in the world. I have no idea if this ex-friend was ever formally diagnosed with anything but she exhibited a lot of cluster B behavior. Full Rules | Acronym Index | Flair Guide| Report PM Trolls, Resources: In Crisis?

Lots and lots of people and they all agree with me," or "So-and-so wants things a certain way" When in reality she might have talked to one or two other people who may or may not have agreed with her, or no one at all and was just saying that to pressure me to doing what she wants while making it seem like it's not her, it's other people. She thinks by telling JNM that I’m tired, on pain meds, and generally out of it, she’ll respect boundaries.

Please make sure you and DH stay firm in your boundaries, your birth plan, and your rules for visitation (like no grabbing baby from you or carrier, always giving baby back when you say so, always respecting your “no,” not waking the baby or interfering with feedings and changings, no isolating with baby alone in another room, etc) with CONSEQUENCES (like the visit ends or there is a timeout on visits for a while). She let the mask slip. This is where this starts and from all of the stories I’ve read in my time here, this is not going to end well, much like Anakin on fire at the end of Episode 3. Was there an underlying situation you might not know of that provoked her to unexpectedly go off like this? Youll end the pregnancy and try for a girl? Nothing will make a narcissistic person’s mask slip like a baby. Especially the ones on covert narcissism and the roles of the children. Also the abortion comment is completely unnecessary. A funny short about my JYMIL. So fine. I was engaged for less than a year, had a small wedding, no big fuss over the dress and such, but still felt like it was not enough time. Due to both of our families (with the exception of MIL and Fil) being 800+ miles away, I know that as soon as news breaks that I’m at the hospital all hell is going to break loose. MIL is present as requested, and asks to let Mom know that I’m in active labor now. Youll suddenly have a girl?

Not saying goodbye when my wife goes out whilst she is here, and lots of other things like that, small but mean. She has shown you who she is OP. I love that you have a JYMIL, but she let her feelings override yours during you delivering. MIL is obviously projecting her own gender disappointment. That way, she can tell your JNM all the lame-ass, nothing news she likes and can deal with her phone blowing up. I almost dropped a bunch of friends--along with her--because of her lying that other people were agreeing with her and me feeling so hurt that my friends would gossip behind my back like that without addressing things with me. Jnm wasn't allowed in until lo and I had had proper time to rest.